Here is the another challenge to face ......... : real advice ( let's imagine that happening to you/me/us)

You got some arguments with your GF. You got angry and both got out of contact. You stopped calling her and contacting her. Let's say it went for 3 months. ....... ( no contact in between excpet hurting txt msg sometimes at mid nite .... )

in new year you happened to see her with her x bf that's the main coz of your argument . He flew all the way to UK to see her to celebrate New year with her ........ Now you came to know he ( her x.. now you are turning her x ... ) having fantstic new year celebration in the hotel room ..... !

What do you do ......... ? ( do you want her back ... , go and confort her ... fight with the guy ... or ignore .... what else u do ... )

Just a thought .. ( vatij haruko lagi ....... )

What do you want? It doesn't matter what happened. Lot of people say, it depends. yes, it depends.

The cause of the argument is her ex boyfriend. What is the cause and what is the argument? It depends.

Turning point of the event, you see her celebrating new year with her ex boyfriend who flew from somwhere to the UK just to be with her. Are they back together? It depends.

It is as simple as it is. What do you want? Put yourself in her shoes. Why did you stop talking to each other? And the hurting messages in the midnight, who sent those and what are those? It depends.

Solution: Jealousy is sometimes a good thing. It keeps you in the check with the ground reality, but in the same time, it manifests your insecurity. The million dollar question, what should you do?

a. Want her back? Sure you do. If you didnot want her back, you wouldn't worry about her spending some time with her ex boyfriend. Do you love her so much that you can ignore other stuffs related to her? Well, you had a relationship knowing she was in a relationship in the past. It shouldn't hurt your feelings.

b. Go and confront her? What is there to confront about? The only argument you will have is that you donot like seeing her with her ex boyfriend which was the main reason of your first argument. I don't think it helps much.

c. Fight with the guy? Yes, definitely. That is if you are more insecure and jealous. We nepalese guys tend to overlook the main problem and always ready ourselves to bash someone. The ex boyfriend is not a problem. He only came to UK because you girlfriend told him to or at the least, implored him to. She did so, becuase of you. Now are you still going to fight with the guy?

D. Ignore? Yes. That is if your feelings for her have ceased to exist. But then again, if it did, in three months, your relationship, if any, needs help. In simple words, if you love her, you cannot ignore and forget in just three months. But then, nothing will be gained by ignoring.

First evaluate yourself and your feelings for her. Go talk to her, nicely. Women are strong but as vulnerable. Do not confront or accuse. Reason with her. If she loves you, you won't even need to apologize. And once she comes back to you, tell her that you love her, and show it with small gestures. A stem of rose weilds as much power as a dimaond ring. Respect her wishes and listen to her as if you were born to listen to her. Pay attention and surprise her. And you will see the wonders of women's touch and devotion to you.

' i have seen a smile in your face after a long time', my friend Kevin desk asking me while i was reading this ... !

I won't ask for your Phd Certificte mate !