True love never hurts.True love should not have even a tiniest piece of selfishness.
In true love if you see your bf with some other girl., you should become happy simply by seeing your love is happy. You see your happiness in his/her happiness. True love doesn't have tiniest piece of jealousy.
"TRUE LOVE" hurts, cause you did the same to others when you were in "false love" with others.
I like to call it LOVE rather then true love, you dont just think that "this time i am going to have true love and this time not and so so" LOL
Anyways, the more free time you have to think about your ex and them more you think about it, it refreshed your memory and it hurts.
Anything, that you cannot get is more precious to you then what you already have. So, since you cannot have it, it hurts ! Whether love is just one sided or your ex dumped you.
Well, I read about the true love ones. And I said on the basis of that. Neither you nor your boyfriend had true love. True love is to wish , pray and always think of your bf/gf to be happy without any degree of selfishness( possessiveness)
If your boyfriend was in true love with you, he will always be with you because your happiness is being with him.
If your were in true love with him, you would have been happy after seeing him happy with someone else.
Actually I don't agree with you that true love always hurts. Infact you will enjoy it, if it becomes successful. We have lots of examples where people married after having love for certain span of time. So do you mean that all the people who married after having love relationship didn't do true love? However its true that after getting marriage all the romanticism between their relationship will disappear specailly in our society. They will mingled with all household things and they will have less time to act like lovebirds. It's also true that this kind of alteration of relationship may not last longer. There are several cases of unsuccessful love marriage. But my point behind all these lines is that true love always doesn't hurt.
But it may hurt. Whether your love hurts you or not is basically depends upon your expecatations. If you have great expectations from your love and in the mean time it becomes unsuccessful then it will definitely hurts you. Somebody has written somewhere that love full of expectations is not true love. But I don't know how one can do love without expectations? Without expectations and desires how we can continue our life? If you look more closey, you will find there are several factors involved in dynamics of love. Another important factor involved here is expectations of your partner. The attraction between you and your partner will survive until both of you have common set of expectations. But whenever divergence appears between expectations of you two then you will not enjoy the relationship. May be you want to continue the relationship from your side but your partner may feel irritating about the relationship and just want to get rid of it. Sometime you may also want get rid from that kind of relationship which you are not feeling comfortable. I don't know exactly how divergence appears between the expectations but I think it depends more on person rather than the environment. You and your partner may not have the same way of looking, understanding and dealing with all things involved in your life. And once you stuck at a point then problem will start. But we still have solution to all these problems of divergence of expectation and that is compromise. You can compromise until you are frustated with the frequency of the problems and size of the problem. Then there is no way left for you besides breaking your relationship. But how much you will be hurted from break in relationship depends on amount of your expectations and your resistance power against feelings and emotion.
I don't think sex has the major role while talking about true love until your expectation from love is only sex. You can love with or without sex. But one thing is sure that you will get more intimacy after having sex. And if your partner is keeping relationship only to get sex satisfaction and you are thinking other way then again you will be hurted when you will know the truth and this is the divergence of expectations between you and your partner. So my suggestion for you is always keep very less expectations.
Little girl and her father were crossing a bridge. The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter, 'Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river.' The little girl said, 'No, Dad. You hold my hand.' 'What's the difference?' Asked the puzzled father. 'There's a big difference,' replied the little girl. 'If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go.'
In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond.
So hold the hand of the person who loves you rather than expecting them to hold yours... This message is too short......but carries a lot of Feelings.
Pain.Tears. Woes. Sorrows. Joy. Bliss. Mirth. Ecstasy. If it were not for these emotional elements, our lives would not be worth living for, innit? True love, in a wider spectrum, virtually does not exist. For many people, true love is a fallacy shrouded in illusion. I am one of them. Bites me! But when I ponder upon the essence of LIFE, love takes the first place. And TRUE LOVE, at that. As the originator has made an effort to point at the fact, that "true love" hurts, I wonder how many of us soaked in the very question, and how many of us even tried to assay it. I am not amazed to see the heights of boisterousness, given that we come from a confined society spoon-fed with the moral and ethical oxymoron. And yet, I would not be surprised if some of us find it ludicrous, and rant the offensives. After all, it is our prerogative. True Love. We tend to believe that there is no such thing as true love. Some of us think that true love is just a veneer of a farcical affair, and contained within the institution of marriage, and namely relationships. Some of us think that true love is an extension of paranoia and state of exultation. But how many of us think that TRUE LOVE is just true love, devoid of temptations and selfishness. I, for one, have only one belief. There is TRUE LOVE, and believe me, it hurts. It might not always hurt, but it hurts. Why do I believe so? I LOVE YOU. There is a magic in these words. There is an inexplicable aura in the words itself, and the feeling is awesome. Just awesome. Everything looks beautiful,and everything feels beautiful. Being in love is a feeling that defies all the rationale, and vanquishes the shreds of dubiousness. And there is heart. Heart is the only part of our body that holds infinite power to nothing and everything. Yes, the juxtaposition of matters, and yet renders the true meaning of life. HURT. A terrible four letter word. Everyone dreads it. And it is inescapable, as it is insurmountable. But as chaste is love, such nefarious is hurt. But the question is, why are we hurt? There are plethora of reasons, and each and all of us have a unique perception about that. And nary a single perspective ramifies the chutzpah of such harangued cliche. SO, we can well just be content in the searching of the reason, and spend our lives in an anticipation of some divine intervention. So, let me not stray from the topic. I believe that TRUE LOVE always hurts when to no avail. But as materialistic we humans are, love is more of a physical togetherness and spiritual bonding, which we sometimes call soul mate.We fall in love, find love, and find happiness and joy. And tears and rues cannot be the components of an apartheid nonetheless. But when we fall out of love, it is a mere disclaimer to ones loyalty, and rather fickleness. And such ensues hurt. But it also occurs when there is no attainment of such connubial bliss. Due to reasons unworthy of, or illogical, we have to forsake or abandon our love; make sacrifices to appease others. And we settle for something our heart does not sit well with. And that hurts,sorrows knock you down and if you are not strong, you just succumb into it. The only flip-side is, if we let the sorrow gnaw into our existence, or rise beyond it, and live a blissful life. The choice is entirely ours. Yours and Mine.
PostScript: The aforementioned views are solely mine, and as ambiguous or hypocritical it might seem, it is not intended to offend anybody's opinions. However, I beg to differ with couple of comments posed earlier. But the rhetoric is entirely your right. As they say, one person's good is another person's bad. C'est La Vie!! pour Quoi Pas?
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I hope all the fake Nepali refugee get deported
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